Life doesn’t come with a ready manual, it comes with a mother.
“Motherhood is a choice you make every day, to put someone else’s happiness and well-being ahead of your own, to teach the hard lessons, to do the right thing even when you are not sure what the right thing is, and to forgive yourself over and over again, for doing everything wrong.”
– Donna Ball
When I read this quote all I remembered was my mom telling me over and over again all throughout my pregnancy, that “Giving birth to a baby is very easy, but raising a baby is as difficult as digesting a stone”
I won’t lie, but I wasn’t too scared about the delivery. Yes I had my inhibitions, but I was ready to face it thanks to all the reading I had done throughout my pregnancy. And yes, now when I look back, I feel my normal delivery wasn’t tough.
But the journey since then has been a roller coaster ride of emotions. Every single thing to do with my baby has helped me evolve as a mother. We’ve seen all kind of colicky days, breastfeeding struggles, growth spurts, sleep regressions and so much more. It’s heart breaking to see your baby cry and on such days I hear mom’s words ringing in my ears. That gives me the courage to keep going.
My Mom was right when she told me “Dont think too much”. The more we think, the more we imagine and the more we get scared. Being the overthinker that I am, it took me a while to understand the depth of this advice and put it to practice. Since then whenever something catches me off guard, I try to keep my cool and go with the flow. Cause now, I believe things will work out. Maybe not how I wanted them to turn out, but I put my thoughts to rest thinking God has better plans for me. Cause now I firmly believe whatever happens, happens for the best.
My Mom was right when she said, “Once you bring kids into the world, it’s not about you anymore”. People change, priorities change. Now, my whole life revolves around my baby. From his food to his toys, from his books to what he learns. Even my own actions and words are carefully chosen lest he picks up from me. It may be hard sometimes, but you have to do it, because it’s the right thing to do. Even if it causes distress to your baby. Because sometimes they will have to learn the hard way. My purpose in life is now driven on what should I do to set a good example for him.
My mom was right in whatever she did and whatever she chose for me when I was young and couldn’t take my own decisions. And I hope I do can do atleast 10% of what my mom did. If I succeed, I’ll consider this life fruitful. Because, now I know how big is the heart of a mother, when I became a mother myself.
Do share with me the advice given by your mother, which you realised were true once you became one. I’ll be happy to read your thoughts!!
This post is a part of a blog train organised by Elina Wadia where 20 Indian moms have come together to write on how their own mothers were right! To read her article on the same topic, click here.
Also, make sure to check this interesting article written by a fellow mom blogger Cheni Adukia (click here to reach her page)
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